Are You Playing to Win?
Or Playing Not to Lose?

Are You Playing to Win?
Or Playing Not to Lose?

Why Support is the Secret Weapon for Business Success

When I first started out in business, I thought I had to do it all alone. I figured if I worked hard enough, Googled enough, and powered through, I’d make it.

Spoiler alert: That’s not how success works.

A few years ago, I had lunch with a woman whose business path looked a lot like mine—same industry, same challenges, same starting point. But there was one key difference.

When she started cold calling, she had someone dropping her off, setting an expectation, and picking her up later. She had accountability. She had a system that ensured she would take action, even when it felt uncomfortable.

Me? I had none of that. And when it got hard, I did what many of us do—I hid. I stalled. I let fear win.

The Power of a Helping Hand
This realization reminded me of an exercise I once did involving a rebar—a thick steel rod used in construction. In the exercise, two people placed a rebar between their throats and were told to walk forward together.
 
Sounds terrifying, right? Because it was. The first time, it hurt. We panicked and pulled away. The second time, the same thing happened. But the third time, something changed—someone stood behind us, placed their hands on our backs, and kept us steady.
 
With that tiny bit of support, we pushed through, and the bar bent.
The Lesson? You Don’t Have to Do This Alone.

Every successful person you admire has had mentors, coaches, and accountability partners who helped them push through the tough moments. The good news? That kind of support is out there for you, too.
 
Whether it’s through a business boot camp, a mastermind group, or a trusted mentor, the right people can:
 
✅ Help you push past fear
✅ Keep you accountable
✅ Provide perspective when you’re stuck
✅ Give you the confidence to keep moving
 
If you feel like you’re hitting a wall, maybe the answer isn’t working harder—it’s finding the right hands on your back to guide you forward.